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hehehe , did hope someone would ask to elaborate on clothes thing - this sound like great reason ! ;D

somewhat long under cut , with thoughts on various kinds of objects - and some non-objects .

feel like no matter how label , people try really really hard to control multigender sexualities , and refuse to understand why these would be hard to explain .

kossai is gay bigender man and woman , with exclusive attraction to men and forms of masculinity and manhood . that do not change even when woman , nor do word of choice change . continue to say gay because this womanhood inherently tie to manhood - still come from different place than what people know to be straight . not really much into label hunts , but like , yeah something like turigirl is probably not wrong .

but labels like turigirl and lesboy always under scrutiny , because of this idea that feminine genders must be wholly un-masculine to be real . to be both man and woman in any possible combination is effectively sacrilegious , and to use gender language at all is some kind of dirty invasion . that come right from transphobe playbook , so honestly not sure how this feel like right thing to do .

maybe someone else would be comfortable to be gayhet , but then still get attack on how that is " contradictory and ridiculous " . after all , total opposite or whatever . never mind any complexities , just , wrong outright and not worth consideration .

like 75% of queer label arguments just come from refusal to see multigender experiences as " real " experiences of any gender . this post is largely from man-woman perspective , given nonsense about how masculine genders taint and invalidate feminine genders , but honestly this is true for so many multigender experiences , and any labels that multigender people might use for description .

in terms of whether or not communities have more men than women - which in some parts is also influence by platform and algorithms ...

male femininity , and what people perceive as male femininity , is under extreme scrutiny in this world . people doubt whether really feminine , really " deserve " to be any kind of girl or woman , especially if not fit into specific binary expectations of womanhood - that is to say , without any manhood or masculinity to speak of .

as well , people still heavily associate particular body parts with particular genders . so if someone present with any sort of mix sex traits , people will obsess and assign which parts feminine , which parts masculine , and try to guess which one is " real " .

this make uncomfortable and unsafe situations especially if happen to be intersex , whether or not fall along typical gender binary . to really be intersex woman or intersex man , one must shut up and consider intersex body to be broken toy , to hide and cut away anything people perceive as male femininity - or female masculinity for that matter .

there really is this extreme scrutiny to make sure that femininity is " pure and un-manly " , as if masculinity is some kind of toxic ooze that corrupt . this is something which hurt everyone , but especially those already most vulnerable .

alongside individuals here who can be anyone and anything , collectively kossai is intersex and bigender , man and maiden both . say maiden moreso for aesthetic appeal than anything else - different words for genders have somewhat different connotations after all , whether that be bright bubbly pinks , sparkly red evening dresses , or delicate flowers - but regardless ... yeah , honestly feel unsafe to talk about in general public .

people make too many assumptions , prod too deep into things that have no right to prod , put under scrutiny and try to decide which one really deserve to exist . but there is no way to separate , to exist as only one - both always there , both always extremely important , regardless of what current clothes express .

so - what is perception of who really count as man or woman ? can someone be both ? is there some secret rule that determine which ones get to be women and which ones do not ? how many men hide these identities , hide femininity and womanhood , with knowledge that people will use one gender to invalidate other ? how many women get cast aside from ideas of womanhood unfairly ?